Our oldest boy has started declaring his independence from us:
(1) He went four days without an accident (waking up dry from naps and nighttime) and then followed with 3 days without urinary success (today he stood on the table while I explained why he wasn't getting his potty treats and rewards, then looked at me and said, "I'm going to have an accident," and peed right there on the table.)
(2) He has started being defiantly disobedient--if I say don't, he does. During baths if I tell him not to splash Friedrich, he starts splashing him worse. If I tell him not to jump on the bed, he does.
(3) He refuses to go to sleep at bedtime. He calls for "a drink of water," asks "wrap me Mama," and then, if I let him fuss, he screams and then, laying on the floor on his back, he starts kicking the door. Tonight, I decided I was just going to let him exhaust himself with, when the upstairs neighbors start stomping on the floor to tell us to be quiet. If my husband were home I would go upstairs and explain the situation--throw a little "your not letting me be a good mother" at them--but he isn't, which of course makes the situation a little more volatile. A little more fuel on the fire comes because he is so tired because he won't let himself fall asleep. I'm trying to find a happy medium between "get your butt in bed" and "I love you no matter what," especially hard since he is so sweet when he finally decides to go to sleep ("I love you, Mama, good night," and "Are you happy, Mama?" are the most common comments).
I don't know how to deal with this. I keep hoping it is a phase, but I'm sure it will last for a while. My mom says that he is smart because he knows exactly what to do to get me so mad. I wish I could figure out how to counter it to throw him off. But I'm stuck. Wish me (us) luck.